Move

     Have you ever lived someplace and you decided to leave? There could be several reasons that lead you to your decision like the fact that you’ve outgrown the space or the neighborhood has drastically changed. It could be that you or your financial status has changed.  Whatever the reasons are, you just know that it’s time to move.  It may become frustrating every day when you come home. Things that didn’t annoy you before absolutely get on your last nerve.  You start finding things wrong that were never apparent before your decision. It’s becomes quite obvious that it’s time to go. Well it’s the same way in our interpersonal relationships. Sometimes you soon realize that you have outgrown certain interactions in your life. Sometimes people grow and mature at different rates and in different directions. Nobody is right or wrong, just different.  Sometimes in relationships individual needs change and the other person is not equipped to fulfill the current needs of the other person. In other words, you no longer have anything in common.  Sometimes you have to accept the shift.  You can’t try to change someone to accommodate your agenda. You also can’t conform to someone else’s journey when it’s uncomfortable for you. Going along just to get along will always lead to frustration and a lack of fulfillment. Conforming to something that you don’t desire or don’t agree with is the quickest way to lose your identity.  Throughout life, your inner circle may change. Sometimes you may have to love the ones most familiar to you from a distance and sometimes it’s time to serve eviction notices to those that cannot reciprocate the requirements of the relationship. If you always find yourself depleted and emotional deposits are never made into your life, it’s time to move. If you are frustrated because you feel like the person in your life never hears you, you’re probably right if they’re not listening. If there is more give than take, release the burden of someone else’s baggage and bid them a long overdue farewell.  Sometimes people tend to take you for granted when they become accustomed to you as a shoulder and savior. We often make excuses for loved ones when we need to hold them accountable.  Each and every one of us is responsible for the way we are treated. If someone you care about and love is inconsistent as well as inconsiderate, just move. It’s time to purchase some storage bins, sort through the memories to keep and the ones to toss. Choose the things to take with you carefully and ask yourself whether or not you’re just transferring senseless clutter or if you’re taking things that will enhance your life in the long run. Don’t just carry baggage because it’s familiar. If you do the right assessment, you’ll find that your load gets lighter. When you move into a new home, you want new things. It’s the same with relationships. If you take the old issues into a new situation, there’s no room for anyone new to bond with you or care for you the right way.  You unknowingly sabotage something that can potentially be a blessing because you won’t mentally leave your previous location. The funny thing is, more than likely the decision to move is made before you have somewhere else to go. This is ok! Sometimes there has to be a time of preparation before the actual shift occurs. We all must do a self-evaluation and decide what enhances our lives and promotes growth. We’re too old to just need to be popular. Sometimes popularity can be the catalysts for destruction, unless you are some sort of celebrity.  If you find that certain connections don’t promote growth, only stagnation, it is definitely time to forgive them and yourself for wasting time, turn in the keys and bounce!  Deuces!!!!