Bon Voyage

     The consequence of growing pains is the loss of casualties.  Many times people come into your life for specific reasons, good and bad.  Sometimes it’s hard to tell what a person’s purpose, or should I say motive is until some time has passed. Everybody is not spiritually mature enough or emotionally healthy enough to remain in your close personal space. People like this feed off your blessings, your anointing, and your spirit until there is nothing left, then they vanish. Many times when you release certain connections from your life, you accomplish things that you never knew you could accomplish. Your ability to remain focused suddenly increases.  This is mainly due to the fact that you don’t have certain elements of negativity and drama draining your attention. There are several types of relationships such as intimate, familial and close friendships that need to be reevaluated and redefined. In some cases, some relationships should not even be considered, they need to be dissected and dissolved.  Remaining in a situation that brings toxicity is stifling and delays your full potential from blossoming. It is not your assignment to fix anyone else's life, unless you plan on giving God a break and taking over where He leaves off. One thing you could do is give them the email address to www.iyanlafixmylife.com and tell them to get a plane ticket. People will only do to you what you allow. We must take responsibility for the things we allow to consume us. Most likely a person that has this personality type has operated in this manner all of their life. He or she never grew up and assumed responsibility for his or her actions. Accountability starts at home. If a person leaves your presence and a sense of heaviness is lifted from your spirit, they’re probably the one that needs to get his or her walking papers. We all have a purpose and a goal that we need to accomplish. If a person is constantly discouraging; never adding to your growth and development, remove them.  This life is not promised. Why waste time entertaining an unhealthy connection that was only attached to you for the purpose throwing you off course?  You have to surround yourself with people with like minds, and more importantly, like spirits.  Do not allow a person or people that are depleting all of your strength rob you of your future.  If you always find yourself feeling emotionally exhausted in a relationship, most likely the expiration date has passed, and they have worn out their welcome in your life. It’s nothing else to consider, nor is there anything else to say, except goodbye!