Broken Laws of Attraction

     Men and women have certain qualities that they find attractive. Most men seem to be attracted to a woman’s outer appearance first. Women seem to be a bit more lenient when it comes to a man’s physical appearance. Women can look past the fact that a man doesn’t have a ball player’s body. She may even look past the fact that a man may be losing a few strands of his hair. A man may not be the tallest and most debonair man in the world, but women will find other things about him like his smile, personality, and his ability to hold a great conversation that makes him a possible candidate for romance. Bottom line is we are a visual society. Social networking and reality TV have given us an erroneous projection of who people really are. I absolutely believe that women should adorn themselves, but where do we draw the line? For example, if a woman is always wearing some type of hair extensions or bleaching her skin and she has daughters, what do you say to your daughters when they look just like you looked before all of the enhancements?  At what age should you allow your daughter to wear weaves? If a man chooses a woman based on her body type or her complexion, what does he say to his daughter when she is the total opposite of what he considers pretty? Are we sending the wrong messages to our young girls and boys? Health and being physically fit go hand in hand, but everybody is not going to be a size 2. Most of us are not going to be a single digit size at all and have never been. The irony is that people who choose to date others based on their physical appearance are the ones that need the most help with theirs. I definitely believe that a person should keep up his or her appearance. Nobody can afford to just let their physical presence dissipate, but if the only foundation of a relationship is physical, it is headed for definite disaster. There was a lady on TV that had plastic surgery and she lost about 180 pounds. She looked great in her clothes. The man that she was dating said that they had a great connection and he has never had that with any other woman in his life. He then went on to say that he was repulsed by her and he cheated on her because her body was disgusting. He said that without clothes, she looked like she had the body of an 80 year old woman and he did not want to have sex with her. He wanted her to have a body like Jennifer Aniston. The procedure that this lady needed to correct the after effects of the weight loss surgery was going to cost about $20,000. She considers this man to be her best friend and she wants to marry him. This young lady felt great about the weight loss at first, because she was disgusted with her body when she was heavier. Now she is disgusted with the outcome of the weight loss because the man in her life told her she looked awful and he wasn’t attracted to her. It is very damaging when the person that you love openly states that he or she does not want to be intimate with you because of how you look. After spending the money, and the man doesn’t approve, still cheats and there are no wedding bells, what’s next? Everybody can stand to improve something about them because nobody is perfect, but make sure the improvement is based on what you want and not based on someone else’s opinion of who they want you to become. Some suggestions are great if they are for your wellbeing, but if a person always has a laundry list of things that they want you to change, they don’t want you, they want someone else. Proverbs 3:26 For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from getting caught. 

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